Yes, this has been a light blog, so far. I’ve put reviews on here, a bit of writing and probably the heaviest thing I’ve put on here is that poem I wrote the other week. But I want to put my Serious Hat on today. If you don’t feel like donning your own Serious Hat, then I recommend clicking onto somewhere else, because in this post, shit’s getting real. How real?

This real. Yeah.
So episode two of Anita Sarkeesian’s Tropes vs Women has just started making the rounds across the internet, and as episode number one did, it’s got a good number of people upset. Having watched it myself, I quite liked it. She made well-reasoned points, explains her position clearly and generally provides a good overview on why the trope in question (this one being the Damsel in Distress) isn’t a good thing, how it isn’t a good thing and how it can perpetuate harmful attitudes towards women and how gaming culture, and culture in general, may benefit from it being gone. It wasn’t the most entertaining of videos I’d ever seen on the internet, but it got its point across well, was presented in a reasonable and balanced manner and I generally found myself agreeing with just about everything she said.
This, however, was not the case with everyone. As with video number one, an awful lot of people have come out of the woodwork and have started trying to, it seems, discredit Sarkeesian in just about every way they possibly can.
To clarify, by ‘discredit’ I don’t mean ‘disagree with’. Reasonable debate is always a good thing, and any attempts to discuss the videos by providing well thought-out ways to disagree or refute points made, and to expand and elaborate upon a subject in an intelligent manner are going to help educate people further in matters and encourage them to participate in their own critical thinking, is something that should happen. The people who may disagree with Anita Sarkeesian aren’t the problem here, provided that their reasons for disagreeing are put together intelligently and are sufficiently explained.
The people who are trying to discredit her, on the other hand, are the ones I’m trying to work out. To provide a little context, those responses that do not agree, either wholly or partially, with Sarkeesian’s videos, can generally be broken down into about 4 different types:
- The intelligent response, e.g. I disagree with some of the points you raised in your video because [evidence-based and rationality-driven response made with an awareness of context]
- The ‘Can’t she just go away!’ response, e.g. All the people asking ‘why are we even talking about this?’ and ‘if we ignore her, she’ll go away and stop making these videos’
- The defensive response, e.g. these vidoe are wrong and everyone should ignore everying Anita says because [reasons that, as far as I have seen, take her points out of context and involve an awful lot of ad-hominen attacks]
- The troll, e.g. all the people who threatened to rape her, murder her, called her a Jew, called her a Muslim, called her a communist, called her a fascist. Well done, you lot.
I’m ignoring the trolls in this post, because that’s how you get rid of trolls, and instead am directing this towards respondants 2 and 3 (number 1 appears to be very thin on the ground). My question to these people is namely this: why?
Why exactly are you so determined to make everybody ignore her? I’m genuinely curious about this. Why? Is it because she wants to take away our games? She stated pretty clearly at the start of both videos that she still thinks people are allowed to enjoy video games, even video games with sexist elements, and all she wishes to do is engage in critical thinking around them, so it can’t be that. Is it because she hates video games and wants people to stop enjoying them? As far as I can tell, that doesn’t look like the case; she seems pretty passionate about them, and in her first video points out that she enjoyed the Mario and Zelda games as a child even though she used them as textbook examples of the Damsel in Distress trope. Maybe she just one of these crazy Feminazis who hates men? Wait, that doesn’t work; a reasonably large part of her argument in video 2 was how the damsels in distress trope has adverse effects on society’s views and expectations of men as well as women.
So, to respondent type 2, I say this; do not be dismayed that these questions are being asked, and do not push them to the side. Instead, be pleased that this debate is happening; through critical thinking and asking difficult questions of things, we eventually make them better. Tropes Versus Women carrying out these dissections may well help make gaming more intelligent, more diverse and more engaging for everyone. In the meantime, she isn’t condemning you for enjoying games that have instance of sexism in them, and you aren’t an evil sexist if you enjoyed these games. Hell, Bioshock Infinite, easily one of my favourite games and a game that I all but proposed marriage to right here on this blog, has a good chunk of its plot built around the Damsel in Distress trope, and I still love it. Even though I’m aware of this, I still love Bioshock Infinite, because all she’s asking for is that we take a moment to consider these things when we enjoy them.
To respondent type 3, I say this; consider the above, and then take a moment to think about what you’re doing. Take a moment to think carefully about how this affects the gaming community as a whole, specifically the way the non-gaming world views the gaming community. The perception of gamers being neckbearded, basement-dwelling, socially inept shut-ins who don’t know how to interact with the wider world, especially women, is not helped when somebody who tries to highlight issues with the way women in games are treated is met with an angry mob who are determined to not just disagree with her, but dismantle both her arguments and her person.

Yeah, you’re looking like this guy. And if that’s the case, nobody wins.
Most gamers nowadays are normal people with an engaging hobby that they’re enthusiastic about; I’m a passionate gamer, but also incredibly good looking, socially adept and a people person, physically fit, erudite and admirably humble and modest. The sooner we shake this stereotype and show the world that the videogaming community is a broad church for many people, the better, but if one of the most common responses to attempts to critically think about attitudes in gaming is “we don’t have problems with the way the gaming community views women, you stupid bitch!” then that helps nobody, least of all gamers.
I can kind of understand where this kind defensive reaction comes from, to an extent. Somebody points out an instance of sexism in a game. People like the game, ergo they feel that by liking the game, and by liking something that’s being called sexist, people calling out that game on sexism are therefore calling those who enjoy the game sexist. And there’s the thing; aside from in the darkest depths of 4chan, I think you’d have to search pretty far to find someone who actively wants to be sexist, who proudly declares themselves to be a misogynist (and no doubt I’ll now get some troll in the comments crying out “I hate teh wimmenz!”). Even men’s rights advocates say they don’t hate women and are just fighting for the male corner. Hence where this defensiveness comes in, as people feel that they should defend a game from accusations of sexism in order to maintain their own integrity.
The second issue, I think, is one of not wanting the games to be bad. When we like something, we generally find our enjoyment of something can be undermined if somebody points out flaws in it. In that case, we wish to avoid hearing about flaws in things we like, as we don’t want our enjoyment of something we like to be spoiled, so when somebody does highlight a problem, we feel the need to silence them so we can continue to like the game without it being ‘ruined’ by this supposed dissent; this, I believe, is part of the reason why the reaction against Tropes vs Women has been so strong, and also where the phenomenon of fanboys/fangirls comes from.
As a result, this kind of automatic-reaction defensiveness can mean that people possibly don’t hear everything that is being said. What needs to be done, however, is to take a step back. Stop, think, and consider everything that is being said. Are they saying “Game X is horrible and sexist and everyone who enjoys it is a stinking misogynistic pig” or are they actually saying “you’re perfectly welcome to enjoy Game X, but there are instances of sexism in it which should be examined”? Because at the beginning of both of these videos, Sarkeesian has said; “Please keep in mind that’s both possible, and even necessary, to simultaneously enjoy a piece of media whilst being critical of its more problematic or pernicious aspects.”
In short, she isn’t calling you a bad person for enjoying games that have aspects of sexism in them, and she doesn’t want to take them away from you. At risk of being presumptuous, I’d even go so far as to say that the reason she’s making the Tropes vs Women in Video Games series is not because she hates video games, but instead quite the opposite; I believe she’s making them because she loves video games and wants them to improve.
And really, as gamers, shouldn’t we all want the medium that we love, the medium that can change lives for the better, that can engage us and make us laugh and cry and cheer in joy and squeal in fright in the way that no other medium can, to get even better for everyone?